Relearning to Sleep

What is deep sleep and how do I get more of it?

We all go through various stages of sleep approximately every 90 minutes or so. This includes shallow sleep, deep sleep, and rapid eye movement (REM) sleep, which is best known for when we dream. It is not uncommon to wake briefly in between 90-minute cycles. The most common issue arising for people with chronic pain is not often a lack of REM sleep or shallow sleep, but insufficient deep sleep. Deep sleep is dominated by delta waves, which are slow brain waves. It is the most restful type of sleep that helps you feel refreshed. Eight hours of shallow sleep will likely cause you to feel worse than fewer hours, which includes deep sleep.

There are many things that can rob us of deep sleep. Common culprits are:

• Daytime habits involving light, activity, & food (LAF)
• Oversleeping the day before or “catching up”
• Doing other things in bed
• Anxiety
• Medications
• Alcohol
• Caffeine
• Temperature
• Noise

What can I do during the day to help me sleep at night?

Separate Day from Night: 

• Light is the most obvious indicator for the body that day is separate from night. Be awake with the sun and asleep with the moon. Of course, this pattern has been altered artificially with the invention of electricity and with the flip of a switch. In other words, we can have bright lights all night. Natural light in the morning will signal melatonin to stop being released, while darkness at night will help signal for melatonin to be released.

• Activity during the day will help increase deep sleep, as long as the activity is not too close to bedtime. Movement indicates it is daytime. Movement also signals to the body and brain that we are using energy and will be tired later.

If you don’t move enough during the day, deep sleep will be reduced. It can be a frustrating dilemma for many people with physical limitations or chronic pain. Moving may hurt, but restless sleep does no favors either. For the sake of improving sleep, movement can come in many forms. Some people find swimming or water movement is best for them. Others do chair exercises, chair dancing, or simple bike pedals they use from an easy chair. Regular aerobic exercise is a good way to increase delta wave sleep.

• Food is key because you when you eat, you release other hormones like ghrelin, leptin, and glucose. Breakfast is still the most important meal of the day, as we “break the fast” of the nighttime hibernation, if you will. If you frequently skip or delay breakfast, try starting with small amounts of easy to digest food within an hour after waking.

As far as eating at night, you may have heard of tryptophan, a naturally occurring amino acid, found in certain foods. While turkey meat has a little tryptophan, dairy products have more and grandma may have been onto something with the glass of warm milk before bed. However, before you pour the milk or scoop a bowl of ice cream, remember that we are trying to signal to the brain-body that it is nighttime. If it has digesting to do, it signals to the body to be awake and would like to burn these calories. Since the energy consumed is not being utilized, it goes into storage — as fat.

Plant-based diets are gaining more and more support for improving energy, reducing risk of many diseases, and their anti-inflammatory properties are good for pain and healing as well. Fats take a lot of work to digest while carbohydrates and sugar signal quick energy is needed. It makes good sense to avoid eating several hours before bedtime. If you are used to late night feedings, it may take a few nights for your body and brain to adjust to skipping the last calorie boost, but you will sleep better for it.

What can I do at night to improve sleep?

• Keep a regular wake time. You may not be able to control when exactly you fall asleep, but you have more control over when you wake up and also how long you stay in bed awake. You can use these two things to your advantage. Set your wake-up time to be the same time every single day, even if it means waking up earlier than you need to on certain days. This anchors one part of the 24-hour cycle so circadian rhythms know what to expect tomorrow around the same time. The other anchors are built in already: light, activity, and food.

• Give up the fight to force yourself to fall sleep. Avoid going to bed until you are sleepy so you minimize the time you spend trying to fall asleep. (This includes giving up the idea that you need 8 hours of sleep). Yes, try less rather than harder to sleep and simply wait until you are sleepy. However, do not allow yourself to doze on the couch. Dozing starts a sleep cycle and then you wake, crawl into bed, possibly now wide-awake.

Use the 20-minute rule. If you snuggle into bed and lie awake for more than 20 minutes, get up, go back to the chair or couch, use a low reading light to read, do needle work, or something else relaxing until you are drowsy again. This will likely be at least an hour later. Then go to bed and you will begin a new 90-minute sleep cycle. If you wake later in the night and are awake for more than 20 minutes, get up and wait until you are sleepy again before you get back into bed.

• Avoid oversleeping. Sorry, no more sleeping in. People often ask, “Can I catch up on sleep?” Short-term, yes, but it is only helpful for a day or so. Oversleeping is a common mistake that reduces deep sleep. It happens when we sleep in, go to bed early, and take long naps. This “catching up” on sleep may feel good temporarily, but the brain tracks the amount of sleep you have gotten for that 24-hour period and then will likely not allow you to get a good night sleep the next night. This often leads to restless shallow sleep, staying up late, more sleeping in, and before you know it, your brain wants to sleep during the day and cannot at night. The more you try to “catch up” the worse sleep quality and insomnia may become.

• Create a sacred space for sleep. The antidote to insomnia is relearning to sleep. It is important to keep sleep only for bed and bed only for sleep. This pairing of bed and sleep is an example of classical conditioning similar to toilet training. We put toddlers on the toilet and wait for them to learn what physiological sensation goes with it. They eventually learn that these two things go together. We want the brain and body to learn that sleep and bed go together. Bed and sleep, sleep and bed. When we do other things in bed like watch TV, work, think or just be awake, we are teaching the brain that the bed is a place to be awake. If we then move to the couch to fall asleep, we are teaching the brain that the couch and sleep go together. We want to untangle this pattern and re-teach the brain that sleep and our bed are the two things that go together best. If you are awake for more than 20 minutes or so, get up and be awake somewhere other than your bed. Once your brain is ready to start a new 90-minute sleep cycle, you will feel sleepy and can crawl back into bed.

What is the #1 thing that keeps people from sleeping?

In a word: worry. Stinking thinking. Monkey Mind. Anxiety, fear, and ruminative thinking are the most common things that keep us awake at night. Humans are the only species known to replay regrets and worry about the future. Sometimes even the anxiety about not sleeping can keep you awake and it becomes a vicious cycle.

There are many techniques to help with these problems, including diaphragmatic breathing, mindfulness practice, biofeedback skills, relaxation, and meditation. These techniques are best practiced during the daytime without falling asleep, and then applied at nighttime with the intention of total relaxation in bed, followed by sleep. The daytime practice trains the brain to stay present and focused. Let go of worry and allow sleep at night and leave problem-solving for the daytime. Designate a worry place for scheduled worry time during the day in a place other than the bedroom.

Other Factors that Influence Sleep

Sleep and Pain Medications: Many medications may affect sleep. Two of the most troublesome are benzodiazepines (sleep and anxiety pills) and opioids (pain medication), which are often prescribed to help with sleep and pain. However, because the body naturally defends against long-term use of them, a natural tolerance builds when they are used frequently and they become less effective. Both benzodiazepines and opioids affect the breathing centers in the brain stem by slowing respiration. The brain may protect against this by reducing the amount of deep sleep, eventually not allowing any deep sleep at all. Some people have tried taking more medication or combining medications with alcohol. This practice is risky and can lead to slowed breathing and death.

Alcohol: Alcohol may seem to help with sleep, but it reduces good quality deep sleep. Having a drink with dinner may be better than a drink near bedtime; however, alcohol may be best avoided until you are sleeping well. Alcohol does not mix safely with most medications, especially benzodiazepines and opioids.

Caffeine: Caffeine is a stimulant that prevents sleep for most people. Moderate amounts of coffee unadulterated by too much sugar and cream in the morning may be fine for you and even have some health benefits. Since caffeine can stay in your system for up to 10 hours, if you drink more than a couple of cups in the morning or drink it afternoon, it may affect your sleep. Overall, keep the use of caffeine in moderation. Consume it only in the morning. Try to keep it “clean,” which means minimize processed ingredients.

Temperature: Being too warm can prevent sleep. The body cools at night as metabolism slows and you will be more comfortable at a lower temperature. A warm bath before bed may still be helpful as long as there is enough time for the cooling system of the body to kick in. A fan might provide white noise and keep you cool as well.

Noise: Intermittent noise and light of the TV, although possibly mind-numbing and comforting, actually tells your brain to avoid deep-sleep. If other noises keep you awake, it may be worth investing in a pair of custom made earplugs. There are many types of earplugs on the market, as well as white noise and sound machines. However, if you want to be able to hear things because you are a parent or caregiver, you will have to choose between allowing deep-sleep or staying more alert in shallow sleep. You cannot have both at the same time. Caregivers, military, and firefighters often train themselves to sleep shallowly so they can quickly be awake and alert in a moment’s notice. This practice is not a sustainable way to sleep and eventually will have health consequences.

Am I supposed to get 8 hours of sleep?

Eight hours of sleep is an average, but oversleeping and spending time in bed trying to sleep decreases deep sleep and disrupts the 24-hour circadian rhythm. For poor sleepers, less may be more. If a chronic pain condition prevents you from sleeping for too many consecutive hours, you may choose to sleep in chunks (e.g, from 10pm-1am and again 3am-6am). For now, let go of the 8-hour idea and focus on getting better quality sleep until you are sleeping better. Once you relearn how to sleep through the night for shorter amounts of time, such as in 3-hour chunks, try going to bed a little bit earlier (15 minutes) each night until you find what works for you. If you decide that chunking sleep into 2 separate parts works better, just be sure to keep the same schedule each night for the chunks and continue to avoid oversleeping.

In summary, do your best during the daytime to engage in daytime activities (LAF) even when you are tired. Do not try to force sleep. Accept when you are awake and find something pleasant to do somewhere else until you are sleepy. Practice letting go and surrender to the sleep gods so you can keep calm and sleep on.